||[Feb. 18th, 2007|10:19 pm]
Significant Others of Healthcare Workers
So my boyfriend,Piotr (Pronounced Peter), and I have been on some rocky terms lately. NOt in a bad fighting sort of way. Just an uncomfortable facade,claiming we are happy but I know he isnt.
He claims he is 'burnt out' and hates his work.Same shit everyday...constantly suffering from Med Student syndrome...if you know what i mean???
Anyone ever have their SO act a little hypocondriac like?
its hard to date someone who isnt happy with themself.
becuase its true right?You have to be happy with yourself to be happy with(or make) someone else happy?
i hate crying.
whenever my SO gets discouraged I try to sort of get him talking, try to figure out what's actually wrong, is the job he doesn't like? what he's doing? the hours? sometimes i break out the the wipeoff board and write down all the things he likes about it and all the things he hates. then we talk it over and try to figure out solutions ... cheezy, but it does help.
from what i've gathered, working in healthcare can be really draining, so it's really important he have something that he can feel releases some of that for him. whether it's playing video games, exercising, journaling, talking, painting, whatever ... find something to release some of that.
hopefully some of my ramblings made sense!
but having Piotr talk about anything deep in his little polish mind in like pulling teeth. its always 'lets drop it, i dont want to talk about it, dont worry about it.'
man, i also mentioned he should take up a hobby type thing but never really respoded to it.
i just hope the best for him. he knows im here for him...but i just wish he would use me! lol(you know what i mean)
thank you thank you
sorry to hear about that.
Whenever my SO has "one of those days" I just try to be supportive, whetherit means letting them vent, or doing something fun/relaxing/something that he enjoys that evening. Sometimes he just needs time to himself to just decompress, and I just need to let him have his space.
Is he happy with what he is doing, is there anything that he can do that would improve his situation?
My SO works for a horrible company right now, but we're focusing on where he wants to be, and helping him to get there. He gets really depressed with how hard his job can be on me, but I just have to remember to be supportive, and remind him that I am there for him.
I don't know if that helps, I hope that things get better.
2010-12-28 02:46 am (UTC)
Hi, I have been dating my boyfriend for about 3 months now and he is a paramedic. He works 6 days a week as a medic from 6am to 6pm but he usually doesn't get off till 8. He also has a hobby that he runs like a business on top of being a freelance photographer. The first month we started dating we saw each other every night, couldn't get enough of each others company, now I rarely see him and I have to compete with his time to do laundry. To make it a bit lonelier I just moved to this city for graduate school so I don't have any close friends that live in the state. He is very secretive with his job and explains he doesn't want to tell me about the things he sees because he doesn't want to upset me but then recently, I assume it all bottled up and he needed to decompress for 3 days. He also comes over for dinner at 8 and is angry or upset about the day he had but won't talk to me, just eats dinner and watches a show and then we sleep. Sometimes he is even to tired to be intimate and it makes me feel so unsexy and unwanted. I want to be supportive and the quality time we do get to spend together is great but I want to have my needs met too. I tried to bring up the subject and talk about it but he loathes talking about things that are uncomfortable And shuts down . Any suggestions on how I can handle this better or maybe approach the subject in a nonthreatening way? Please help
2010-12-28 02:48 am (UTC)
Hi, it's me again from the 3 months dating a medic. He also loves his job, all of them!